Understanding the “Holiday Blues”
The holiday season can be a difficult time for many. It is meant to bring joy and celebration but sometimes this time of year can bring sadness and despair. Changes in life, such as being separated from family and friends, or living through the grief of a loss, can be especially hard.
Holiday blues are also thought to be primarily caused by expectation and comparison along with a lack of planning and action. People generally have high expectations for the holidays. We often hope that they will make up for a year gone wrong. We expect family members to become friendly, season‘s greetings to be sent, gifts to be given, and happiness to reign. The mass media, through news stories, TV specials, and advertising, raise this hope for “what may be.” The reality of “what is” often falls short of the expectation and there is disappointment.
Negative memories may also be associated to the holiday season and those suffering with depression and other mood disorders can also be affected at this time of year due to change of daylight. Many people are lonely at this time of year if they are working or going to school without a way to get back to your family for the holiday season. You may have not been in Vancouver long enough to make many friends. It can be hard to find comfort.
Characteristics of “The Blues” are emotions - sadness, loneliness, depression, anxiety - and, although intense and unsettling, these emotions are generally short-lived and usually subside within a few weeks once a daily routine is resumed. Other symptoms of the “Holiday Blues” may include:
* headaches * inability to sleep or sleeping too much * changes in appetite causing weight loss or gain * agitation and anxiety * excessive or inappropriate feelings of guilt * diminished ability to think clearly or concentrate * decreased interest in activities that usually bring pleasure, such as: o food o sex o work o friends o hobbies o entertainment
The most important things to remember are: it‘s a normal response to a stress-filled time of the year and you don‘t have to suffer unnecessarily. If you anticipate feeling very lonely on Christmas Day or Christmas Eve, there are ways that you can help yourself feel better and survive the holiday season. 26 Ways to Improve Your Mood During the Holiday Season:
1. Volunteering offers a way to interact with others, give to the community, and help keep your spirits up through giving. The Union Gospel Mission, Salvation Army, Carnegie Community Centre, or various churches will provide Christmas dinners and benefit by receiving help from volunteers. This is a good way to help yourself by not being alone and by helping others in need.
2. If you are in a new community, try to get an invitation somewhere for Christmas. Let others know that you would enjoy having dinner with them.
3. Invite someone to join you in celebration.
4. Find out what the community offers and participate in it. Go to the